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vacation! family! (quiet! time alone!)

October 24, 2010 Leave a comment

I live and work in a border town. The university for which I work does not have a fall break. The rest of my family does (they work across the border from me).

I think Child #2’s face shows just how excited she was to go visit her cousin, aunt and uncle (with her dad and #1).

What you can’t see is my excitement for a weekend without kids. Don’t get me wrong, I adore my children. But that’s just it — sometimes I sacrifice too much of myself to them. I become overspent, irritable and just need some time alone.


I’ve been home (more or less) alone, for a few days. For the first time in years, like possibly 8. Aside from just having a chance to do things I haven’t been able to do (go out for a beer with a coworker and decide to stay for dinner, have dinner with a friend, browse for a birthday gift, knit for hours and watch crummy tv…), I’ve also had lots of thinking time. I think that for me, this is one of the biggest challenges I have in parenting: I need time alone to think and process information and I just don’t get enough. It could be that I need a lot more time alone that your average joe, I have no way to judge.  But for a few more hours I’ll be enjoying the silence.

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In this Moment (a day late)…..

October 9, 2010 Leave a comment

It’s FALL! (photo by Doctordad)

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October 6, 2010 Leave a comment

Today is preschool picture day. We (several preschool moms) seem rather tech savy to be discussing picture day at preschool via facebook.

Here’s what I wrote:

my kid has on a flowered dress + striped (non matching) socks. She feels *great* about herself and we will all smile when we see the picture. And ___other mom____  can pull it out in 10 years and laugh about how that girl wore non-matching clothes on picture day 😛 It also happens to be the dress she wore yesterday because it looks good on her and she asked me after school if she could wear it again tomorrow. She wanted me to wash it but I gave it the old sniff/stain once over and it was put back on a hanger when she took it off for jammies.

I worried all morning that I had forgotten to drop off the cash for the picture. Then I remembered the beautiful part about picture day. L’s teacher reminded me later that they take everyone’s picture. So even if mom isn’t buying pictures L would still practice her smile and feel good while she was doing it.

After reflecting on it all day, my kid feels good about herself and that’s what I want her to show in the picture.  I don’t want her to hate the dress her mother made her wear and when she looks at her picture in 30 years she still feels the scratchy buttons. I also don’t want her to feel like me when I’m getting a posed picture taken: my hair suddenly feels frizzier, red spots appear on my complexion that weren’t there two minutes ago, and my smile is just not quite right.  In the end, we are all fine the way we are.

The message from the day for me is we are enough. No matter the outfit, no matter if I planned on taking the picture or not, we’re the people we are inside.

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In this moment

October 1, 2010 Leave a comment

A blog I sometimes read, Soulemama, has a Friday ritual.

A single photo – no words – capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.”

Here’s mine

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