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thoughts for a tuesday

November 20, 2012 Leave a comment

I’ve been having and listening to several on-going conversations with friends about relationships that are out of balance in their lives. My dog walks and exercise time this week has been devoted to thinking about, around and through these relationships. As I began to write an email to a friend last night, I decided it was better left until later. I wanted time to pause, reflect and to pull one of my favorite books about parenting off the shelf. My friend introduced me to the book about eight years ago. (Eight years, is that possible?). Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn. I’ve never read the book cover to cover. Rather from time to time I pick it up, read 2-3 chapters, put a bookmark in the book and return later, having processed what I read.

As I think through this email I’m about to send to a friend, I’m looking for a passage from the book. Turns out, as I look, that this book about parenting is about teaching too. I just lost myself for about 30 minutes in this book, that I have already read cover to cover, and yet I still haven’t found just the passage I was looking for. Perhaps I should just buy K the book?

We are continually seeking balance in our parenting. To a large degree, it is a very personal matter. What feels balanced to us might feel completely unbalanced to you, and vice versa, and what may feel right to you may feel wrong to someone else. Moreover, what may feel right to us now may not feel that way at some other time. It’s a continual process, since the balance point keeps changing. Each of us has to work at defining what balance means for us, and creating it from moment to moment for ourselves, for our children, and for the family as a whole, as best we can.